{"id":3403,"date":"2015-08-18T00:00:27","date_gmt":"2015-08-18T07:00:27","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.hoc6.org\/global\/?p=3403"},"modified":"2015-08-17T23:05:12","modified_gmt":"2015-08-18T06:05:12","slug":"818-intimate-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hoc6.org\/global\/2015\/08\/18\/818-intimate-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"8\/18: Intimate Relationships \uff08\u8bd799:1-9 \u6797\u524d12:1-26 \u6b4c1:1-4:16\uff09"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Intimate Relationships<\/h2>\n
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\u2018When I first visited the Vineyard Church in California I discovered that one of their principal values was \u201cintimacy with God\u201d. So when I came back I started to talk about that as being one of our values too,\u2019 recalls Sandy Millar in his book, All I Want is You<\/em>.<\/p>\n

He continues, \u2018One of the very nice members of our congregation at that time took me to one side and said, \u201cPlease don\u2019t use the word \u2018intimacy\u2019 because we don\u2019t use that word in that context.\u201d So I started talking about \u201cthe closest possible relationship with God\u201d which is quite a mouthful. But after a bit I stopped because what I really meant was \u201cintimacy\u201d and I think that\u2019s what the Bible means for our relationship with God too.\u2019<\/p>\n

We are created for intimate relationships \u2013 with God and with one another. There is a hunger deep in our souls for an intimate relationship with God. There is also a hunger for intimate relationships with other human beings.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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1. Intimacy with God<\/h2>\n

Psalm 99:1-9<\/a>You are created for an intimate relationship with God. It is personal:<\/em>\u00a0\u2018The Lord our <\/em>God\u2019 (v.9). Yet intimacy with God is not to be taken for granted. God is mighty, holy and just.<\/p>\n

\u2018The Lord reigns\u2026 he sits enthroned between the cherubim\u2019 (v.1). The cherubim are the symbol of God\u2019s holiness (see Genesis 3:24, Ezekiel 1:4ff,10:1ff). God\u2019s throne is pictured, \u2018between the two cherubim\u2019 (Numbers 7:89). This is the place from which God speaks.<\/p>\n

This psalm emphasises the holiness of God. The word \u2018holy\u2019 (Psalm 99:3) emphasises the distance between God and human beings. God is not only mighty and holy, he is also just: \u2018He loves justice\u2019 (v.4). The appropriate response is to \u2018worship at his footstool\u2019 (v.5).<\/p>\n

Somehow, this gulf between God and us has been bridged. We know now that this is through Jesus and what he did for us by the cross and resurrection, and the outpouring of the Holy Spirit. This psalm anticipates the intimacy with this God of power, holiness and justice made possible through Christ.<\/p>\n

God \u2018spoke to them\u2019 (v.7). He spoke to Moses and Aaron and Samuel (v.6). He spoke to individuals. He speaks to us individually. \u2018They prayed to God and he answered them\u2019 (v.6, MSG).<\/p>\n

Not only is he a God of justice, he is a God of mercy and forgiveness \u2013 \u2018a forgiving God\u2019 (v.8). He is \u2018our<\/em> God\u2019 (vv.8\u20139). As Derek Kidner puts it in his commentary on this Psalm, \u2018The majesty is undiminished, but the last word is now given to intimacy<\/em>.\u2019<\/p>\n

Lord, it is amazing that you are all-powerful, holy and just, yet you call me into an intimate, personal relationship with you. Thank you that you are my God. Today I \u2018worship\u2019 you at your \u2018holy mountain\u2019 (v.9).<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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2. Intimacy with one another<\/h2>\n

1 Corinthians 12:1-26<\/a>There is so much loneliness in our society. Many, especially young people today, have nowhere to process their pain. They turn to alcohol, drugs, promiscuity or some other way in an attempt to deal with their pain. The elderly are also often marginalised, isolated and alone.<\/p>\n

You are not intended to live alone. God created you for community \u2013 a community as close and as interdependent as the various parts of the human body. Paul develops the analogy of the church being like the body of Christ. The Holy Spirit has given different gifts to every member of the church (vv.1\u201311).<\/p>\n

\u2018The body is a unit\u2019 but \u2018it is made up of many parts\u2019 (v.12). People come into the church from all different backgrounds, nationalities and positions in society \u2013 \u2018Jews or Greeks, slave or free\u2019 (v.13b). Yet regardless of where we have come from, \u2018Each of us is now a part of his resurrection body, refreshed and sustained at one fountain \u2013 his Spirit \u2013 where we all come to drink\u2019 (v.13, MSG).<\/p>\n

We now belong to one another. Our relationships are as intimate as the different parts of a body. We are utterly dependent on each other (vv.12\u201313).<\/p>\n

The more different we are, the more we need each other. The eye needs a hand more than it needs lots of other eyes (vv.16\u201317). Variety is essential (v.17b). This is true not just of the local church but of the global church. We should not look at the different parts of the body of Christ and say, \u2018They are different, there must be something wrong with them.\u2019 Rather, we should say, \u2018They are different, we really need them.\u2019<\/p>\n

It is time to drop the labels \u2013 describing ourselves or others as a particular type of Christian. \u2018The old labels we once used to identify ourselves… are no longer useful. We need something larger, more comprehensive\u2019 (v.13, MSG).<\/p>\n

God has designed the body so that there will be this mutual dependence. \u2018I also want you to think about how this keeps your significance from getting blown up into self-importance. For no matter how significant you are, it is only because of what you are a part of\u2019 (vv.19\u201320, MSG).<\/p>\n

We particularly need the parts that \u2018seem to be weaker\u2019 (v.22). Our internal organs \u2018seem to be weaker\u2019 in the sense of being more vulnerable. That is why they need protection. However, they are \u2018indispensable\u2019 (v.22). Likewise, those parts of the body that are \u2018unpresentable\u2019 are treated with \u2018special modesty\u2019 (v.23). No one would suggest that these parts are not important. Indeed, they are vital.<\/p>\n

Because we need each other so much there should be \u2018equal concern for each other\u2019 (v.25). There should be such intimacy and love that \u2018if one part suffers, every part suffers with it\u2019 (v.26a). This is the community we need where people can process their pain. It is also a place where people can share their joys: \u2018If one part is honoured, every part rejoices with it\u2019 (v.26b). As St Augustine said, \u2018Banish envy and all that is mine will be yours; and if I banish envy, all you possess is mine!\u2019<\/p>\n

Lord, help us to have such love and intimacy with our brothers and sisters in Christ. May we demonstrate a unity that makes Christ beautiful to the world. May this unity and loving intimacy satisfy the emotional hunger in the hearts of your people.<\/span><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

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3. Intimacy in marriage<\/h2>\n

Song of Songs 1:1-4:16<\/a>This book can be read on many different levels. It describes the joy and mutuality, beauty and power, agony and ecstasy of human sexual love. It speaks of marriage as it ought to be \u2013 the beautiful intimacy of marital love between man and woman.<\/p>\n

Yet marriage is, in a sense, a metaphor to describe something even more beautiful \u2013 the relationship of God to his people. Supremely, it is used to describe the relationship between Christ and his church (Ephesians 5:21\u201333). It is a picture of God\u2019s deep and passionate love for you and your intimate relationship with Jesus. For this reason, throughout church history, people have used this book as a metaphor to express the intimacy between God and the church.<\/p>\n

Yet, it is interesting that the Bible has a whole book celebrating erotic love in marriage. It shows what a high view the Bible has of sexual intimacy<\/em> in marriage. It speaks of delight and contentment \u2013 a love that is wholehearted and passionate \u2013 holding nothing back.<\/p>\n

It is clear that this kind of sexual intimacy is for marriage alone. This is the love between a bride and a bridegroom. The lover refers to his love as \u2018my bride\u2019 (Song of Songs 4:8\u201312ff). In a world of loveless sex, it proclaims that sex should never be separated from love and lifelong commitment.<\/p>\n

There is a warning against opening this gift before marriage: \u2018Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires\u2019 (2:7; 3:5). Or as The Message<\/em> puts it, \u2018Don\u2019t excite love, don\u2019t stir it up, until the time is ripe \u2013 and you\u2019re ready\u2019 (2:7, MSG). You risk spoiling this beautiful gift if you open it too early.<\/p>\n

There is also a warning about \u2018the little foxes\u2019 that spoil the vine (v.15). Our relationships are often destroyed not so much by big issues but by little ones \u2013 seemingly insignificant choices and compromises.<\/p>\n

As Joyce Meyer writes, \u2018Watch the \u201clittle foxes\u201d in your life; forgive even the most minor offence so that your heart stays clean, do not cut corners in your finances or on the job when you think no one will notice, do not expose yourself to ungodly influences, thinking, It won\u2019t hurt me if I do it just this once<\/em>. Little things add up to big things, and before you know it, little foxes can ruin a strong, healthy vine.\u2019<\/p>\n

This intimate love relationship described is both exclusive and inclusive. It is exclusive in that at one level they have eyes only for each other: \u2018My lover is mine and I am his\u2019 (v.16). Yet this relationship is also, as in all the best marriages, a blessing to others. They do not ignore their friends. The friends say, \u2018We rejoice and delight in you. We will praise your love more than wine\u2019 (1:4).<\/p>\n

Lord, thank you for the beautiful gift you give us of intimacy in marriage. Thank you that the gift of marriage is ultimately a picture of the intimate love between Christ and the church. Help us to grow in this intimacy and love with you and with one another.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<\/div>\n

Pippa Adds<\/h2>\n
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1 Corinthians 12:26<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2018If one part suffers, every part suffers with it\u2026\u2019<\/p>\n

When I broke my metatarsal (a very small bone in my right foot), it definitely affected my whole body. I could hardly walk for six weeks. I can understand now how something so small\u00a0can affect the whole body.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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